This is really a conversation you need to have with him. He is still in residency. Thanks for commenting on my blog. I only hate one thing in the planet, and that's the Mormon church. Being a doctor means you sacrifice for others, and your family and spouse sacrifices while standing in the shadows of your career. Why do we not talk about Heavenly Mother. I mentioned in another post that I am okay with us not seeing each other all the time. We are very blessed. It's very lonely right now but thank God it's only a few more days.
She went ahead a married a non member. Even after that, the Church discourages youth from entering serious relationships before they are considering marriage. She might not even be living according to the moral standards of the Church. You should ask yourself if you want to pursue a future partner who was raised in an environment that causes drastic sexual suppression and you may never have a healthy sex life if she is your wife. You will have to bring her down to reality. I would need to ask my husband again. Reading your blog has helped, especially in seeing that these lonely feelings are normal. It sounds like you HAVE done your best in the past. Another simple and doable option is to go online; there are many LDS dating sites where you can sign up and meet new and interesting people. I am engaged to a doctor who will complete his residency in 2 years.
This is really a conversation you need to have with him. It'll reinforce the wisdom of running from this disaster in the making. Married to a Surgeon as well.
Loneliness seems to be a part of being a wife of a doc in training, and at times all I can think of is simply getting over a day at a time. For example, the irish, polish and the italians basically intermarried. Raising our children as believers is proving to be very tricky. Each time, I start to make friends and have to leave them and move. I never pressure him to spend time with me. This is how I felt when I married my exmo husband. Mormonism and Non-Mormonism don't link to future lives. I don't really care if she's religious or not, unless she brings it up all the time or tries to convert me. My husband is more relaxed now - even with 14 hour days - and yes, I am starting to feel like he is "coming back".
